I don’t like condoms, never did. I don’t like the way they feel - it’s like I can’t feel anything during sex. When I was 10 years younger, like in my 20s, I used to use them all the time but as I got older I got frustrated and gave up on them pretty much all together.
Now I go to the homeless day center sometimes and these people are always talking about getting tested for HIV and offering us free condoms. At first, I just laughed at them and told them I didn’t need them. I know they protect me against STDs and getting someone pregnant, and I especially don’t want to get HIV, but I really don’t like using condoms.
The people who come to talk to us about HIV and sexual health have some good points though, like using condoms with girls I don’t have sex with regularly or girls I pay for sex. So sometimes I take the condoms from them now. Just having them on me makes me feel more comfortable and confident in myself because then I’m safe from diseases.
Bobby’s story is one of our HIV Testing & Prevention program’s "Role Model Stories” in which real people describe how they made a change to reduce their risk and improve their health as it relates to HIV and AIDS. Names have been changed and the images are staged with actors.